(I know I've been MIA for a bit. Amazing how busy life can get sometimes.)
My oldest is approaching 3 and 1/2 years. And potty training is still an issue... I have done a ton of reading on the subject, but nothing seems to be giving me any guidance for our particular situation.
1) Is she capable of being potty trained? Yes. She's physically capable. In fact, she'll go for days without having an accident. She still wears pull-ups at nap time and bed time, but otherwise she's just fine. Then, out of no where she refuses to wear underwear and will only wear pull-ups. And she refuses to go to the bathroom any where but her pull ups.
2) Did we buy her cute underwear? Yup. We own every style available in the stores. I think we have 60 pairs of tiny underwear. We have every available cartoon character, color, style. You name it, I've bought it.
3) Do we make a big deal out of her successes? Yup. We used to even give her candy each time she went on the potty. But then we discovered she was so capable of doing this that she would hold it and only go a tiny bit each time so as to get candy multiple times instead of the one time (yes, she's brilliant).
4) Do we make a big deal out of accidents? Nope. We shrug our shoulders and just say "Accidents happen," and move on. That is what every book and article (and even Elmo!) told me to do.
5) Is there a problem with other siblings? You bet. We were on the fast track to potty training when the new baby arrived. Instantly Lorelai refused to wear her pull-ups anymore. She wanted diapers like the baby. We (at the advice of our pediatrician) obliged. That lasted about 2 months and then she wanted to be a "Big Girl!'. Of course, there are still moments when jealousy rears its ugly head and Lorelai wants to be a baby again. And then we start all over again.
6) Did we make the potty fun? Yes. We bought her a pretty little potty and let her decorate it with lots of stickers. We even spelled her name out on it in glittery letters. Sometimes she'll use it. Other times she prefers the big person potty. And yet other times she won't use either.
7) Do we let her run around naked? (hysterical laughter) If you've been to my house in the past year, you probably wonder if my daughter actually owns pants. She's naked all the time. And many days refuses to wear any clothes at all. In fact, she's parading around in her birthday suit as I type.
So that's it. That's the bulk of what I found in my research and yet no dice. Did you have trouble convincing your toddler/preschooler to use the potty all the time? Did you have these set backs? And if so what did you do about it? What works????