In my first post I referred you all to a blog post on another site which talked about the recent Today Show "expertise" about open vs. closed adoption. I've since cooled down and am ready to give you my take on it.
If you watch the clip, you'll see that each answer begins with "I wouldn't want..." or "I don't want..." or "I warned her..." Seem the common theme? I! I! I! Open and closed adoption isn't about what is good for the parents! It's about what is best for the child... just like all parenting decisions should be. I don't particularly care of Thomas the Train, but we watch is because my youngest loves it. It's not about me. It's about her. My girls brush their teeth every night. I don't skip tooth brushing because I think it's a pain and I don't want to do it. I do it because it's best for them. And when we had to decide if we would be part of an open or closed adoption we realized quickly that this isn't about us. It has nothing to do with whether I wanted contact with the birth families or not. It has everything to do with what is best for my children.
Let me give a brief disclaimer that there may be some rare instances in which a closed adoption is better. For example, if there is some reason why the birth family may harm the child, then by all means an open adoption is not the right answer. But outside of those rare circumstances, I can't imagine a compelling reason why an open adoption wouldn't be in the child's best interests.
So in response to these "reasons" why closed adoption was better, I've compiled my Top 10 Reasons Why Open Adoption is Better. I could have listed 50... but I stopped myself at 10.